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5 Simple Ways to Stop People from Sucking the Life Out of You

All of us have been there–we are spending time with someone who is overly talkative, needy, and selfish, and without them knowing it, are frankly just sucking all of the life out of us. It can feel at times that they are a vampire, draining all of our energy away.If you have found yourself in this position before, know that you are not alone. Most of us know at least one person in our life who does this.The best way one could imagine ending this would be to stop talking with the person, but most times, it is not that simple. Sometimes the people who drain us the most are the people we have to encounter every day, such as coworkers, a difficult family member, or the judgmental lady neighbor you see all the time at the grocery store.All of these people are unavoidable, therefore, we have no option but to have to interact with them. If you have many people in your life who drain you, know that there are many things you can do to prevent them from draining your energy any longer.Through going to therapy and studying the Bible, I have learned that there will be people who will be unintentionally toxic and burdensome, but it doesn't mean that we have to let them rule our lives. Instead of allowing them to drain every ounce of hope out of our bones, we can take our stand and do things to help ourselves.These things can take time and work, but they are worth it. Anything good is worth working for, and this is no exception.The individuals who are draining you probably aren't just doing it to you. They are probably fatiguing many other people and causing them to feel overwhelmed. And while this doesn't solve your problem, it can help you feel less alone.Many of the people we encounter every day deplete us with just a simple word, remark, or facial expression, but we don't need to give them that much power in our lives. If you are tired of people sucking the life out of you, here are five ways to keep people from doing it.Photo Credit: ©Getty Images/MarioGuti

8 Unnoticed Ways God Is Blessing Your Life

When we think of God’s blessings, our minds often conjure up happy relationships, being financially secure, enjoying vacations, or gaining favor with people in power. We might even tend to think of only those “it’s good to be alive” moments.But God can often be blessing our lives in ways we don’t even notice, like when we’re dealing with a disappointment, an unexpected diagnosis, or a financial setback.I’ve learned by now that some of God’s best gifts to us are the things He withholds. And some of our most precious blessings come in the form of suffering. We often don’t realize it immediately, but in hindsight, we find we have much to be grateful for.So that you can live out God’s will for you and be thankful in all things (1 Thessalonians 5:18), here are eight ways God is blessing your life that might otherwise go unnoticed:Photo Credit: ©GettyImages/Daniel de la Hoz

7 Faithful Ways to Wrestle with Disappointment

Disappointment is an inevitable part of life. We all encounter moments when life doesn’t go as planned--unmet expectations,broken relationships, unexpected hardships, missed opportunities, and other disappointing situations. As Christians, we’re not immune to disappointment because we’re living in a fallen world.However, we have a loving and powerful God to help us in disappointing situations.Jesus warns us in John 16:33 that we’ll encounter disappointment in our earthly lives, but he also encourages us to rely on his help to overcome it: “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”Romans 15:13 promises that when weask the Holy Spirit to help us, the Spirit will give us the hope we need: “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”God never wastes hardship. When we trust God, he will bring us through disappointment and help us findpeace of mind andjoy in any circumstances.Let’s explore 7 ways Christians can wrestle with disappointment and handle it well.Photo Credit: ©Getty Images/Fizkes

5 Profound Reasons Why Showing Up Matters in Christianity

A famous adage says, "Half of life is just showing up." Although people may dismiss this statement, there's some truth to it. While technology tries to replace in-person church attendance, small groups, and other in-person communication, connection and intimacy can only be achieved through events that we do in groups or one-on-one. Technology cannot replace the connection and community we receive when we attend something in person. We make friends and receive strength, correction, and grace when we need it the most. Furthermore, when we attend in-person events, we not only receive encouragement from the people around us, but we give encouragement as well. Here are some reasons why showing up matters in Christianity:
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3 Incredible Things You Can Do to Reflect Christ in Dark Times

“But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!” (2 Timothy 3:1-5).Many Christians believe we are currently living through theverylast of the Last Days (akaThe End of the World As We Know It). And those paying attention to the nightly news, ranting on social media, or the culture war raging around us would likely point to Paul’s prophecy of 2 Timothy 3 as proof of that belief.These verses describe the end of this age using the phraseperilous times– meaning dangerous, tense, tumultuous, emotionally difficult times. These are times dominated by a “me-centric” humanity: spiritually bankrupt, morally twisted, and lacking self-discipline.Call me crazy, but that sounds spot on to me; people today are simply in love with themselves!But beingin love withis quite different thanlovingoneself, which is entirely Scriptural:“You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39).Everyone should love themselves. It’s the second greatest commandment out of the lips of Jesus — second only to loving God. And it implies that I can’t love you properly unless I love me as well! That is, the way I lovemedirectly affects how I love, treat, and respectyou.If I’m not happy with me, content, at peace and secure in myself, I will project my insecurities onto you, and be jealous of you, disloyal, harsh and unforgiving, unkind, envious and inconsiderate toward you. Because, if I don’t love me, I simply can’t love you either. And how I treat you is a reflection of me, more than it is of you.When you arein love withyourself, like when you are in love with someone else, you become excessively fond, attracted, infatuated with and self-consumed.This word is literally describing a worship of one’s self.In self-worship, every situation encountered is first filtered throughhow does this affect me?It is not a matter of fairness or justice, not mercy, nor right or wrong, and not what God says in Scripture, but is entirely based on the question: what is best for me?Photo credit: Unsplash/Josh Boot

8 Things Every Christian Needs to Stop Doing Right Now

Christians are not perfect. While we get a lot of things right, there are still quite a few things we get wrong.Some of these are detrimental to our personal walk with Jesus and our testimony to the world.For this reason, here is a list of 8 things every Christian needs to stop doing now.1. Stop Neglecting Your Personal Relationship with the Lord“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.”--Mark 1:35The main reason God saved you is because he wants to have a personal relationship with you. Yet sometimes we treat spending time with God as an obligation and not a privilege.Do you really understand what it means that you can spend time in God’s presence? This is the same God who spoke and the world came into existence and he wants to be in relationship with you. We need to stop neglecting this time.When Jesus walked the earth, everyone wanted his time and attention, yet he intentionally got away from people so he could pray. Not only did this maintain his relationship with his Father, but it was his source of strength to face all the challenges of the day.I know there is a lot going on in your life, but make sure you find time to spend with the Lord. You will be better for it in more ways than you realize.Photo Credit: ©GettyImages/Deagreez

7 Biblical Truths to Guide Your Decision-Making

In a world filled with complex choices and moral dilemmas, we all need God’s guidance to make the best decisions.Praise be to God, the Bible features timeless truths that can help you make wise decisions in any situation.By grounding your decisions in biblical principles, you can make choices that reflect God’s will. Then you can experience the peace and joy that come from living the life God wants for you.Here are 7 biblical truths to guide your decision-making process:Photo Credit: ©Getty Images/Pict Rider

6 Ways to Praise Yourself Out of a Funk

Life is hard, and circumstantial seasons of loneliness, stress, sickness, and sadness are painfully unavoidable on this side of heaven. Thankfully, one of my greatest gifts from God happens to be a freakish ability to maintain joy even during what I call the "funks" of life or those prolonged seasons of "blah-ness" where nothing seems to be going right, and we feel about as inspired as a piece of charcoal. Here are some of my best practices for getting yourself out of a funk.
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5 Signs Sports Is Becoming an Idol in Your Family

Few activities or pastimes play as big a role in our society as sports. Just consider the cultural impact of such events as the Olympics, World Cup of Soccer, or NFL Super Bowl. Those are the big ones, the spectacles that stand on a global stage and capture the attention of millions of sports fans around the world. But what about sports on a more personal level? What role does sports play in the lives of families around the world? Of course, there are many wonderful things about sports that we can rightly celebrate and enjoy. From promoting exercise to fostering teamwork, goal setting, and the pursuit of excellence, sports has contributed to the health of societies and individuals for centuries.The Bible even uses the occasional sports metaphor to describe the kind of spiritual discipline, perseverance, and motivation that Christians should develop in their own lives (1 Corinthians 9:24; 1 Timothy 4:7-8; Jeremiah 12:5; 2 Timothy 4:7-8; 1 Corinthians 9:26; Philippians 3:13-14). However, for many sports fans, Christians among them, passion for sports can often become an obsession, distraction, and, in some cases, even an idol if we are not careful.Now I know what you’re probably thinking. What does signing my kids up for gymnastics, cheering on our favorite baseball team, or hosting a Super Bowl party have to do with the kind of idolatry described in the Bible? We would be right to make some distinctions. Few Christians will ever be guilty of outright worshipping sports in the same way the Israelites bowed to man-made idols or created false representations of God in the Old Testament. That kind of idolatry God clearly denounces, and it is the same kind of worship practiced in some parts of the world today. And yet, we must always remember that in the first commandment, God said that we are to have no other gods before (or beside) Him (Exodus 20:3).When God is pushed to the sidelines or knocked down in the depth chart of our devotion, something is clearly competing for our love and adoration. In many cases, it comes down to our hearts and the place of honor God occupies in our lives.Here, then, are five signs that sports may be competing for your devotion or rising to the level of idolatry in your family:Photo credit: ©GettyImages/Wavebreakmedia

10 Reasons Why I’m Sad but God Is Still Good

“Shouldn’t I feel happy?” My friend swiped at tears that glistened in her eyes. “After all, I’m a Christian.” Lori gripped her steaming mug of tea and lowered her gaze. Her mom had died a few months earlier, and she struggled to cope with the loss even as she cared for her three rambunctious boys.Many followers of God hold the same misperception Lori held. We have Jesus as our Savior. He washed away our sins. Aren’t we supposed to feel happy in every situation?We forget the raw emotion Jesus displayed when he wept over his dead friend. Jesus felt sad despite his knowledge that Lazarus would come back to life. We also forget Jesus promised we would have “many trials and sorrows” in our lives as His followers (John 16:33 NLT).As Christians, we have permission to feel sad. We cannot avoid this emotion. But we also cannot judge the goodness of God’s character based on our feelings.King David wrote most of the psalms to anchor Himself to God’s goodness even as he worked through intense life events and the normal emotions that accompany them. As we consider ten common reasons for sadness, we can follow David’s example of reliance on God’s proven character in our own periods of trouble and sadness.Photo by Anton Darius on Unsplash

What Is Shavuot and Is it Still Important Today?

Shavuot demonstrates that we need to make time for God regularly, remembering what He gave to us not only through the Bible but through His son, Jesus Christ, on the cross. As we set aside these special times with God, we grow to know Him more personally and experience Him on a deeper level than we ever had before.

6 Profound Benefits of Biblical Counseling

The world we live in is full of sin, suffering, and confusion. We live with the consequences of our own sin, the sins of others committed against us, and the original sin that left us and our world broken. Every one of us needs help and hope. And praise God, there is help and hope to be found!While most people I know, including myself, have received secular therapy and/or Christian counseling, I would like to familiarize you with biblical counseling and its benefits. As someone who has tried it all, biblical counseling is where I have found lasting results. And, as someone who now serves as a biblical counselor, I can tell you that the examples of hope and healing I have seen in the counseling room have been powerful.Maybe you’re grieving, struggling with addiction or mental health issues. Perhaps you’re overwhelmed, depressed, or suffering from anxiety. No problem is too big or too complicated to be seen, heard, and addressed through the lens of Scripture. Join me in exploring six benefits of biblical counseling.
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